Goleman, Boyatzis, and McKee’s “Primal Leadership” has truly resonated with me and how I approach leading my ICT projects. It’s given me a framework for understanding how my emotions and actions directly impact my team’s performance and the project’s success. Here’s how I’m applying their insights:
Emotional Contagion and Resonance: I’ve become acutely aware of how my own attitude and energy influence the team. If I’m stressed and frantic, it spreads like wildfire. But when I’m calm, focused, and optimistic, it creates a positive and productive atmosphere. I’m consciously working on “resonance” – tuning into my team’s emotional state and responding in a way that fosters motivation and collaboration.
The Six Leadership Styles: I used to think leadership was a one-size-fits-all approach. Now, I realize the power of flexibility. Depending on the situation and the individuals involved, I find myself shifting between the six styles:
- Visionary: When kicking off a new project, I paint a compelling picture of the end goal and how it connects to the bigger picture.
- Coaching: I delegate tasks and empower team members to take ownership, providing guidance and support along the way.
- Affiliative: Building strong relationships and fostering a sense of belonging within the team is crucial, especially during challenging times.
- Democratic: I actively seek input from the team, encouraging everyone to contribute their ideas and perspectives.
- Pacesetting: When deadlines loom, I set high standards and closely monitor progress, but I try to do it in a way that motivates rather than intimidates.
- Commanding: I rarely use this style, reserving it for critical situations where immediate action is required.
Emotional Intelligence Domains: I’m actively working on strengthening my emotional intelligence across all four domains:
- Self-Awareness: I regularly reflect on my own emotions, strengths, and weaknesses, and I seek feedback from others to gain a clearer picture of my impact.
- Self-Management: I’m learning to manage my emotions more effectively, especially under pressure. Transparency and adaptability are key in the fast-paced world of ICT.
- Social Awareness: Empathy is crucial. I strive to understand the perspectives and needs of my team members, stakeholders, and even end-users.
- Relationship Management: Building strong, trusting relationships is fundamental to effective leadership. I focus on clear communication, active listening, and collaborative problem-solving.
The Five-Step Process: I’ve found the five-step process for developing leadership skills incredibly helpful:
- Identifying my ideal self: I’ve reflected on my core values and aspirations as a leader.
- Identifying my real self: Through self-reflection and feedback, I’m gaining a more objective understanding of how I come across to others.
- Making a plan: I’m actively working on bridging the gap between my ideal and real self, focusing on specific areas for improvement.
- Experimenting and practicing: I’m consciously trying out new behaviors and approaches, seeking feedback and refining my skills.
- Developing supportive relationships: I rely on my network of mentors, colleagues, and friends for support and encouragement.
By embracing the principles of “Primal Leadership” and actively developing my emotional intelligence, I’m becoming a more effective and resonant leader in the ICT space. It’s an ongoing journey, but I’m committed to continuously learning and growing to better serve my team and achieve our project goals.